“All appears to change when we change.”

I am not stating that I am the happiest person on the planet.. I am definitely not. But recently, I have made a conscious effort to try and become a happier person, a more positive person, and a better person too.

Obviously these tips might not work for everybody, but here is a few suggestions of little things you can do to improve your life.

1. Sleep, sleep and even more sleep.  

I know staying up until the early hours watching crap on TV is more appealing than an early night, but I can guarantee having as much sleep as possible will make your day start in a much better way, and might even stop you sleeping through your alarm. Of course we don't all have time for 12 hours sleep a night, but I'm sure its scientifically proven somewhere that we function better on at least 8 hours.. and I'm sure I do. 

2. Practise Random Acts of Kindness.

I watched a video with my mum once which changed my perception of helping people completely. I recommend everyone watches it - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lMmozPVUj-s . 

There is no prescription for how to practise random acts of kindness, it comes entirely from your heart. Your gift might be to pick up litter, make a contribution to charity, send some cash to someone in need, save an animal or help a homeless man. I can definitely say practising one small kind act a day will bring even a moment of joy to your life. Everyone needs a helping hand sometimes. 

3. Organisation - lists, lists, lists, lists.

Whether a bucket list or a to do list, lists and organisation make me feel a lot more productive and calm. Once I moved out and things I took for granted, like food shopping, became a part of daily life, lists took over and now I write lists for everything. Daily to do lists, long-term goal lists, shopping lists, things not to forget lists.. There is nothing more annoying than forgetting to do something important. Plus, lists don't have to be mundane; include something fun to do after your list is complete!

4. Say YES.

Suffering from anxiety, I know how easy it is to say no. Whether you're anxious or not, saying no is sometimes the easier option, maybe you're too tired to go out in the evening or you think you're too busy to start a blog. From experience I have grown to realise that a lot more fun comes from saying yes than no, and fun brings positive and happy emotions. Great things never come from comfort zones. As you push yourself, you'll begin to see more and more doors open to new and exciting experiences you never thought were possible, and then you will probably feel like you have achieved something. 

5. Resist the Urge to Criticise.

If you attend a gathering and listen to all the criticism that is typically levied against others, and then go home and consider how much good all that criticism actually does to make our world a better place, you'll probably realise the answer is zero. Sometimes, we think that criticising others makes us feel better about ourselves. However, if you take a moment to think how you feel immediately after criticising someone, you will feel a little ashamed and deflated. As hard as it may seem, next time you feel like criticising somebody, turn the criticism into a compliment about the other person.

6. Me time. Daily.

Ten minutes, half an hour, 3 hours of time purely dedicated to doing things that make you happy. For me, there is nothing better than a Sunday night painting my nails with a cup of tea and catching up on Coronation Street. Everyone has busy lives. Giving yourself a small portion of your day to simply be alone and reflect, will quiet your mind and balance all the stress of the day. Everyone needs to stop and breathe sometimes.. everyone.

7. Turn Your Melodrama into Mellow-Drama.

I've found that simply reminding myself that life isn't a soap opera is a powerful method of calming down. Arguments don't have to be huge episodes and stress doesn't have to reduce us to tears. Often, simply reminding myself that my life isn't a drama, takes the edge off the seriousness and helps me laugh at myself and my problems. By stopping viewing your problems as the end of the world (which I definitely am guilty of), we also stop exacerbating the problem by talking to others about 'how awful it is.' 

8. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff.

Have you ever started to think about something you were not happy about, and the more you thought about it the worse it seemed? Have you ever overslept, and the more you rushed around and the more worked up you got, the more things started to go wrong? Have you ever thought 'my day could not get any worse', and then suddenly it does? By focusing entirely on negative thoughts and our negative emotions, more negative things come about. If you can feel yourself becoming worked up, if you're having a bad day.. Take 5 minutes, and remember to breathe and think 'don't sweat the small stuff, and it's all small stuff.'

9. Get a Tom. 

Unfortunately for you, but luckily for me, Tom is mine. But in all seriousness, if you find somebody you can trust and have a laugh with (whether this is your mum, best friend or brother), you'll begin to move in the right direction to a happier life.

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